Grindr - So complicated to reality or not?
The success of Grindr (and other dating apps) is due to its simplicity, but what makes Grindr so attractive? On Grindr most users are 'singles', but often looking for relationships (‘I don’t wanna be alone’).
But if they get a relationship, they are miss having Grindr. It is either so attractive or addicting. There are examples of users who want dates, but don’t want their boyfriend to know about it. So complicated to comprehend or not?
We are at a party in a club and what do we see? Grindr users on smartphones. Most of the time they seek faces of people nearby. Good to know how someone looks, but also his intention and behavior, where he comes from and whether he’s single or not. This makes the dating process a whole lot simpler.
Home users, watch for pretty faces to show up in their neighborhood and look for nice dates. Obviously, an active user will already have had the whole gay neighborhood in his bed already – but is this really true? Apparently there is also a gap between liking to date and dating itself.
Grindr is just a dating app. Do not directly go making wedding plans when you chat with someone for the first time on Grindr. There is still the reality and there should be a match!
Most Grindr users find it a funny app to look to other gays. Some are addicted to this app, while others use it occasionally. One mentioned the app does work 24/7; users are often not always available. If you just sit at a desk or are in a meeting, your Grindr will work, but beyond sending messages there is no activity.
Grindr is the world's largest Gay Social Network in 192 countries, but don't think everyone is social on that network. Pretty faces get more attention than others; just like in reality, the same goes for the app. There have been periods when Grindr had communication problems, but they seem to have been solved. Some users have problems with the ‘privacy’ of their profile. If you want to be ‘completely anonymous’, just don't use Grindr.
How Grindr will evolve in the coming years, cannot be predicted. Will catfishing, fake profiles and photos eventually kill Grindr? We know that different people have had enough real dates thanks to Grindr and some have even built up contact (and true relationships) with others. Before you start with Grindr, you must realize that the virtual world can differ vastly from reality. The real world can be so complicated, but is Grindr the solution to that problem?
Importantly, if you find a date: Go For It! Do not wait until later. NOW is the answer, not ‘in few hours’ or ‘tomorrow’.
Will Grindr Kill Gay Bars? See our other review about Grindr.
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Friendships are needed to not always be alone
to be. Unfortunately, thanks to the use of smartphones and social networks, our friendships are rather virtual. What are our real friends?
Loneliness, difficulties to have contact with other gays and grief. These are often elements that we often find in the gay world.
Many causes can be found in the coming-out period. Coming-out often does not run as we expect. This is normal, everything needs its time.
But many often have many expectations and requirements during their coming out.
We are who we are.
Often it is 'I' thinking that everything will go wrong.
We give or think that we give a bad self-image to others. Generally we ignore signals from others and are very selective in the choice we make.
We have become much more careful after our comming-out and build walls around us.
Being careful sometimes is necessary because there are many donkeys and fakers in the area.
But we must not make everyone bad, we have to understand what happens and
courage to have contacts.
And this with everyone, whether it is your type or not. Friendships are not relationships.
We can not force relationships or friendships. Everything must be done spontaneously
and we can never have many expectations. Go ahead and free yourself.
You can never reject someone, of course outside the donkeys, but you have to put energy and have patience to make the right contacts.
Learn from the experiences of others.
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For the first time, go away from social networks.
These are often not social enough to look for friends. You can have a lot of friends or 'likes', but these are . Dating apps are to date and make intimate contacts, not to seek friendships.
�Go to gay bars better and look for peace
and conviviality. Do not be selective and look around how other gays interact.
Look and learn from their experiences and make friendships.
If you then have your first friends, it is more important to keep them. We are in a community that supports each other and you in the future
also as a family. Stop contacting message services with each other.
Not with messages from 'hey' or 'how are you', but ask direct questions: 'Are you at that party too?' 'Have you seen that new movie?' "Do you want to have a drink later?" .
It is important that you get to know each other.
Go to a birthday party, go to the cinema or drink something.
Loneliness must be avoided.
Friendships are there to have, but certainly not to abuse.
There are a few rules about friendships:
'Never require anything or make heavy demands',
'Keep to your meeting appointments',
'give each other space' and 'be honest'.
And the most important rule too:
"By the way, friends never lend money to each other." So when someone asks to borrow money, say 'no'. This is not to say that you pay a liquor bill once. But never borrowing real money.
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A highlight of the summer season is the charming and unique GAY NIGHT AT THE ZOO. In the midst of elephants, tigers and penguins is sung, swung, casually danced and celebrated.